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ENJOYING EVERYDAY LIFE ... with Joyce Meyer
The Key to True
Happiness
One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned is that you can’t be both selfish and
happy. I know this is true through my own personal experience, but more
importantly, the Bible has some things to say about the attitude we should have
about “self.”
For example, love is not selfish. In the Amplified Bible, 1 Corinthians 13:5 says,
“…Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is
not self-seeking....” In 1 Corinthians 15:31, the apostle Paul said, “…I die daily [I
face death every day and die to self]” (AMPC), which basically means he was not
self-seeking but instead focused on doing what God called him to do with his life.
There are also scriptures that teach us the importance of having self-control.
Galatians 5:23 lists self-control as a fruit of the Spirit, and 2 Timothy 1:7 says that
in Christ, we have a spirit “of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced
mind and discipline and self-control.” If you’ve lived very long, you realize that not
being selfish requires self-control, because we’re all born with a human nature that
is selfish. Think about how babies act: they are only concerned with what they
need and usually cry when they don’t get their way.
Thankfully, when we experience new life in Christ, we die to sin. Romans 6:11
(AMPC) says, “Even so consider yourselves also dead to sin and your relation to it
broken, but alive to God [living in unbroken fellowship with Him] in Christ Jesus.”
But even though we die to sin, sin does not die. That’s why we have to continually
make the decision over and over again to choose to do the right thing on purpose.
And we have what it takes, in Christ, to do what’s right—whether we feel like it or
not.
Discover Your True Destiny
As Christians, we’re destined to be molded into the image of Jesus Christ (see
Romans 8:29). Jesus is the greatest example of what it means to love others and
not live a selfish life. First John 3:16 (NIV) says, “This is how we know what love is:
Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our
brothers and sisters.”
This scripture shows us that Jesus gave everything when He demonstrated His
love for us. And we are to follow His example. The truth is, loving others is not
always easy, and it always costs us something: time, money, convenience, etc. But
through our relationship with Him, we can find the strength and ability to love
others, even when it seems to cost more than we think we can give. God is faithful
to give us His love, grace and wisdom to reach out and be a blessing to others.
And when we do, we end up receiving more joy and peace than we had before.
Now it’s important to understand that God doesn’t expect you to take this to such
an extreme that you don’t take care of yourself. We need to use wisdom so we can
be healthy emotionally, mentally and physically while we’re helping others. In
following Jesus’ example, remember to make your relationship with God your
number one priority and do what He puts in your heart to do.
Get the Right Mindset
The world is full of lonely, hurting people who are hungry for the love of God and
the hope that is only found in Jesus. I want to encourage you to get rid of a “What
about me?” mindset and instead pray, “God, show me someone who needs a
blessing. Show me someone I can help.”
We all have room to grow in our relationship with God, and learning how to reach
out to others is a big part of that process. Selfishness and always trying to meet
your own needs puts you in a position of weakness. But the more you trust God to
meet your needs, the more you’ll be free to help others…and the happier you’ll be.
I used to be self-centered and focused on getting my way all the time. And I was
miserable! But now I am happier than I’ve ever been because I don’t spend all my
time thinking about what I want, what I think and how I feel. The truth is, you can’t
be happy if the center of your life is you!
Imagine how different the world would be if everyone would just do one nice thing
to help someone else every day. It can be so simple to put a smile on someone’s
face. Give a compliment, give something away, take the time to listen, open a door
for someone, let someone go before you in line at the store…the list could go on
and on.
Make it your business to regularly reach out to people around you, encouraging
them and meeting their needs as you are able to do it. Be determined each day to
do at least one thing for someone else that makes their life better. Trust me: You’ll
discover that serving God by loving others is the most wonderful, exciting thing you
can do!
For more on this topic, order Joyce’s two-CD series 7 Ways to Increase Your
Happiness. You can also contact us to receive our free magazine, Enjoying
Everyday Life, by calling (800) 727-9673 or visiting www.joycemeyer.org.
Joyce Meyer is a New York Times bestselling author and founder of Joyce Meyer
Ministries, Inc. She has authored nearly 100 books, including Battlefield of the
Mind and The Mind Connection (Hachette). She hosts the Enjoying Everyday Life
radio and TV programs, which air on hundreds of stations worldwide. For more
information, visit www.joycemeyer.org.
Joyce Meyer is a New York Times bestselling
author and founder of Joyce Meyer Ministries,
Inc. She has authored 100 books, including
Battlefield of the Mind and God Is Not Mad at
You (Hachette). She hosts the Enjoying
Everyday Life radio and TV programs, which
air on hundreds of stations worldwide. For
more information, visit www.joycemeyer.org.